Attachment & Relationship Trauma Therapy
Attachment wounds can shape how we connect, protect ourselves, and respond to closeness in relationships. These wounds often develop early in life or through significant relational injuries later on.
Attachment and relationship trauma therapy focuses on restoring emotional safety, trust, and secure connection—both with others and within yourself.
What Is Attachment Trauma?
Attachment trauma occurs when important relationships feel unsafe, inconsistent, or emotionally unavailable. This can include childhood neglect, emotional abuse, inconsistent caregiving, betrayal, infidelity, or repeated relational ruptures.
Over time, these experiences shape how the nervous system responds to intimacy, conflict, and vulnerability.
Common Signs of Attachment & Relationship Trauma
Many people don’t realize their current struggles are rooted in attachment wounds. Common signs include fear of abandonment, emotional shutdown, difficulty trusting others, or intense reactions during conflict.
You may notice patterns of pursuing closeness while fearing it at the same time, or pushing others away to protect yourself from hurt.
How Attachment Trauma Affects Relationships
Attachment trauma often shows up in adult relationships as repeated cycles of conflict, withdrawal, anxiety, or emotional disconnection.
Couples may feel stuck in negative patterns where both partners feel unseen, unheard, or unsafe—despite wanting closeness and connection.
Therapy for Attachment & Relationship Trauma
Therapy provides a safe, attuned space to explore attachment wounds without blame or shame. The focus is on understanding how your nervous system learned to protect you—and helping it learn new, safer ways to connect.
Healing occurs through corrective emotional experiences that build trust, emotional regulation, and secure attachment.
Modalities Used in Attachment Trauma Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps individuals and couples identify attachment needs, soften defenses, and create secure emotional bonds.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) supports healing by working with protective parts while accessing the calm, compassionate Self beneath attachment wounds.
EMDR helps reprocess unresolved relational trauma so past experiences no longer drive present-day reactions.
What Healing Can Look Like
As attachment wounds heal, many clients experience greater emotional safety, clearer communication, and deeper intimacy. Relationships become less reactive and more secure.
You can learn to stay present during conflict, trust emotional closeness, and respond from connection rather than fear.
Attachment-Focused Therapy in Sandy, Utah
At Big Valley Therapy, attachment and relationship trauma therapy is trauma-informed, compassionate, and grounded in evidence-based approaches.
Whether you’re seeking individual therapy or couples counseling, healing is possible when safety, attunement, and emotional honesty are prioritized.