đź“‹ What to Expect in Couples Therapy
Every couple’s story is unique, but here’s what you can typically expect when starting couples therapy at Big Valley Therapy:
🛠️ First Sessions – Understanding Your Cycle
We’ll work together to identify the negative patterns you both get stuck in—the arguments, the shutdowns, the disconnects. Together, we’ll create space for each of you to feel heard, understood, and emotionally safe.
❤️‍🩹 Middle Work – Healing the Emotional Wounds
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we’ll help you slow down tough moments and express the deeper feelings and unmet needs driving your conflict. Whether it’s anger, sadness, fear, or shame, we’ll help you communicate in ways that build connection instead of creating more distance.
🔎 For Betrayal Recovery Couples
If you’re working through the fallout of pornography use, infidelity, emotional affairs, or sexual addiction, we’ll take a phased approach:
Establishing safety and emotional stability
Addressing the impact of the betrayal for both partners
Working toward trust-building and emotional repair
Helping you move toward intimacy and reconnection (when both partners are ready)
🌱 Later Stages – Building New Patterns
As healing progresses, we’ll help you develop new, emotionally secure ways of reaching for each other—especially during moments that would have previously triggered conflict, distance, or shutdown.
đź’¬ Common Issues We Work With in Couples Therapy
Pornography and sexual addiction’s impact on the relationship
Betrayal trauma recovery (affairs, infidelity, emotional affairs)
Emotional distance and loss of connection
Frequent arguments and unresolved conflict
Communication breakdowns
One partner withdrawing or shutting down
Trust repair after emotional or physical betrayals
Intimacy rebuilding—both emotional and physical
Pre-marital counseling or early relationship struggles
Navigating recovery and rebuilding the relationship post-addiction
🛤️ Our Approach
At Big Valley Therapy, we don’t just teach communication techniques or offer quick fixes.
We help couples heal at the emotional root.
Our work is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—a research-backed, attachment-based approach that focuses on restoring emotional safety and connection between partners.
We help you:
Understand and break your negative interaction cycle
Access and express deeper emotions and attachment needs
Rebuild trust after betrayals or emotional injuries
Develop new, healthier patterns of connection and communication
For couples affected by pornography addiction, infidelity, or sexual compulsivity, we provide specialized care for both partners.
We address not only the behavior but also the emotional wounds and relational trauma left in its wake.
We work with both the person struggling with compulsive behaviors and the partner experiencing betrayal trauma, guiding you both toward healing and reconnection.
âś… Call to Action
Your Relationship Deserves Healing and Connection
Whether you’re recovering from betrayal, feeling emotionally distant, or caught in painful cycles—we’re here to help.
Take the next step toward healing and reconnection.
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