Many children struggle to maintain a sense of self-worth with all the demands and expectations placed on them—from society, parents, and even sibling order. These pressures can cause children to develop perfectionism, leading them to believe they’re not good enough. 😞
The Hidden Dangers of Perfectionism ⚠️
Perfectionism often starts from subtle messages kids hear, like needing to be the best or always succeed. This creates black-and-white thinking—success or failure—which can harm their self-esteem. Instead of feeling proud, they may feel they never measure up. 🖤🤍
Why “Good Enough” Isn’t Enough 🎯
Saying a child should be “good enough” still sets an unclear and unmeasurable goal. It keeps them stuck in a win-or-lose mindset. Instead, focusing on effort and hard work builds real confidence and motivation. 💪
How Parents Can Shift Their Praise 🗣️💬
Instead of saying:
“You’re the smartest!”
Try:
✅ “You did so well! What helped you succeed?”
✅ “I noticed how hard you worked. What strategies did you use?”
✅ “You kept trying even when it was tough. That’s awesome!”
This approach helps kids value their effort and growth—not just outcomes. It encourages resilience and a love of learning. 🌱
Empower Your Child to Thrive 🌟
Parents play a big role in shaping self-worth. By focusing on growth, effort, and perseverance, children learn to face challenges with confidence and believe in themselves. Recognize the messages you send and help your child feel valued for who they are, not just what they achieve. ❤️
Need parenting support or want to learn more about building your child’s confidence? Contact Big Valley Therapy for expert guidance and care. 🌈
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