When an affair happens, the betrayed partner often asks: “Did you truly love me?” 💬 This question goes straight to the heart, stirring feelings of pain, confusion, and loss. To make sense of this, we need to look deeper into love, shame, and emotional healing. 🌿
The Capacity to Love Starts with Self-Love 💖
Love isn’t just a feeling—it’s deeply tied to how we connect with ourselves. If the person who betrayed you is honest, they might say:
“I wanted to say I loved you fully, but I couldn’t because I didn’t fully love myself.” 🧠💔
The truth is, you can’t truly love someone else without loving yourself first. Self-love is the foundation for giving and receiving affection. If shame has dominated their life, it’s hard for them to experience love authentically. 😔
Shame Blocks the Ability to Receive Love 😞
Living with shame makes it difficult to accept love and affection. Even if you told them you loved them daily 💌, they might not have internalized or believed it. This is frustrating and painful. 💔
Remember: You cannot control their shame. What you can do is be supportive and encouraging while focusing on your own healing. 🌱
What About the Affair Partner? Did They Love Them? 🤔
Many wonder if the affair partner was truly loved. Usually, affairs are not about love but about avoiding emotional pain and numbing shame. Even emotional and physical affairs are often escapes, not genuine love connections. 🚪💨
Healing After Betrayal: Where to Begin 🌟
For healing, focus on:
Building self-love & addressing shame
Reconnecting emotionally and learning healthy love
Radical honesty to rebuild trust
Though infidelity wounds deeply, it can also be a chance for growth and transformation. Healing is possible whether you stay together or move forward separately. 💪✨
💬 Need Support After Betrayal? Big Valley Therapy Can Help!
If you’re struggling to navigate the pain and confusion after an affair, you’re not alone. At Big Valley Therapy, we specialize in helping individuals and couples heal, rebuild trust, and reconnect with their authentic Selves. 💚
📞 Schedule your free consultation today and take the first step toward hope and healing.
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